Monday, June 24, 2013

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Sunday, June 23, 2013

Pray for your spouse, even if you haven't met them yet.


(Kandee and I when we are about 13 and 15)
When I was about 13, I went to a Christian teen convention in L.A where I learned something that would change my future. At the conference, there was main worship and then a few different classes you could take on relationships, marriage, growing closer to God and on and on. But the one thing that really got my attention was in the class on preparing for marriage one day. The speaker, taught about PRAYING for your future spouse. I thought this was kind of crazy since I had no idea who I would marry at the time. But God did, and I could pray to God for this Mr. X and God would see to it that what I asked for would be done if it was according to His will.



So off I went, praying for my future husband whenever I remembered to do it. I prayed for God to keep him safe, for God to guide him in his life.

Here's a few examples of areas you might want to cover in prayer:
  • Pray for is heart to be toward God
  • For his family, that they would be good parents and love him well
  • For God to guide his steps
  • For him to wait to have sex until you are married
  • For blessing over him and God's will to be done in his life
  • For Favor with God and then others
  • For wisdom from God
  • For him to love you as Christ loves the church (us- willing to die for us so that we may live)
  • For him to love God first, you second and then everything else
  • For him not to fall into addiction of drugs, alcohol and pornography
  • For him to be intelligent, smart to navigate life well
  • For his health, financial prosperity, spiritual growth etc.
This is just a starting point, feel free to add or change as you feel lead by the Spirit of God. If you still don't know what to pray, ask God to show you areas to pray for.

Are you wondering how my prayers turned out? Well, I'll tell you! Ha ha ha, even if you're not wondering! 

My faceless, nameless shadow of who I would marry--who received all of my prayers...Byron Myers. How delighted I was to hear of how different his life had been from most of the boys I grew up with. He didn't do drugs, drink or any of the other trouble starting habits that most guys I knew had. He had wisdom beyond his 23 years (that's how old he was when we met) and heart that had been prepared by God.

I know that the few desires I mentioned to God over the years had been answered, I had flesh and blood proof, and he was adorable. Still is. Ha ha ha! He is really my very own miracle, because as I dated through my teen years and into college--through breakups and heartache, I thought he might not even exist. But here he is, and right now he is playing with our precious little girls.

(Byron helping Audrey walk at Disneyland last week, with Sydney leading the way!)


See? It will all be okay. Don't be anxious and worry. God tells us this.

Philippians 4:6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.

Pray for your future spouse EVERY time you start to get anxious. AND remember...

Matthew 6:33 "But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you." 

Your job is to keep God first in your life, above all else. And to NOT worry about your life. God is at work on your behalf. Think about that for a minute, the God who formed the foundations of the earth, who holds the world together with His Word, is working all things out for the GOOD of those who love Him. Now take a deep breath, it's all being handled, by God Himself. Wow.



Huge hugs and may God bless you and your future spouse--or if you already married, my He bless your marriage richly!

Tiffany  

Sunday, June 16, 2013

The number #1 key to having a successful relationship



The number one key to having a successful relationship is not half as much about the OTHER person as we ALL have been told. I know this sounds WAY out there, but just keep reading...let me explain.

Most women have been "told" by the world that a "soul-mate" (read my other post on Soul Mates: http://hugelove.blogspot.com/2012/03/have-you-ever-heard-of-people-looking.html ) will be our Knight in Shining armor, love us perfectly, make us their highest priority, and our every emotional need will be filled by them, that we will never feel lonely, unloved, ugly or abandoned again--IF we have the RIGHT guy. And if you feel any of those negative feelings, then you just need to find the next guy and the next guy and the next guy...which can go on to infinity.

This is a horrible lie perpetuated by every "romantic comedy," tv, books and magazines out there. If you tell a lie to someone over and over again, they will eventually start to believe it. And that is what has happened to most women, we've been set up by the world to attain what is not human, but rather spiritual perfection and perfect love from an insanely flawed man. To which is absolutely impossible.
Like finding a brand new Range Rover for $2.00. Not gonna happen.

So what do we need to do?  We women, first need something literally OUT OF THIS WORLD. We all need to allow our hearts, mind and spirit to be made complete in Jesus, the King of kings.  This is the rightful place of God, our Rock that is higher than high. After all, He has already called us his bride.

Look in Isaiah 62:5, "As a young man marries a young woman, so will your Builder marry you; as a bridegroom rejoices over his bride, so will your God rejoice over you."

Every desire of your heart can be met by God Himself, because He can see your heart. No human man can do this. No human man can understand you fully, but God does, He put you together just as you are.

Jeremiah 1:5 "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart;"
No one on earth knows you as complete and whole as God does. No one loves you as sweetly as God does. Why then should we expect this deep of "knowing"and complete loving from anyone less than God Himself? It is only God who can fill our hearts, never abandon us, be ever-present, ever listening, constant lover.

And yes, God DOES have a place for a flesh and blood, human man in our lives. Otherwise God wouldn't have made both, man and women. Man is supposed to be a shadow of what Christ is to the Church, willing to love so well, that he would die so that she may live. The man HAS a place, but it's our fault for putting him where only God can be. If we set a man to be our god, we will be sorely disappointed, hurt or worse.

By getting our sustaining love, perfect companionship, supernatural intervention into our lives from God Himself, we then can love a man, appropriately. He can then be entirely human, with faults, errors and misunderstanding and still be a great husband.

Of course I'm NOT saying that a man can treat you any old way HE thinks best. Some men are truly terrible and need to be stayed away from. Example, is he is physically violent. You need to get away and stay away.

So first, you need to accept Jesus as the lover of your soul. He comes first, always. Then, you need to pray to God and ask Him to direct you to the right human man. This also means you must keep your head in the game so to speak, and I mean  that you need to find a man that has a relationship with God himself, there is no need to have any relationship with a guy who has no relationship with God.

Then, you will both have a firm foundation, which is God, to build YOUR romantic relationship upon. And when troubles come, you can both come together to seek God for His help, healing, guidance, wisdom, blessing or whatever challenge you both might be facing.

With God has your common denominator, you have stability that will out last this lifetime. Without God, a relationship is like a two legged stool, it's nearly impossible to keep it up right. Wouldn't you rather have a three legged stool? Now that is a stool that can bear and incredible amount of weight and pressure and not break apart.

Remember, God first, then your man, equals a successful and healthy marriage...like the ones in the romantic comedies. Ha ha ha!

Huge love, your girl,

Tiffany

PS: this takes major pressure off of your relationship, which is always a good thing!

Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Sunday, June 9, 2013

Why not be wronged? WHAT?!?!



Now here's where one of my deep loves with God is anchored-- that His Word runs counter to everything that the world claims to be right.

Example, worldly advice would say if someone hurts you, then hurt them back, plus interest. Or maybe you have heard people say, "I'm nice until you piss me off" this is another type of worldly attitude where people live their lives with a constant shallow threat so that others won't wrong them. And by the way, it never works--I've tried it! Ha ha ha!

No matter how many threats someone makes, or how many times they say "Don't mess with me" it ALWAYS fails. Those people will be hurt again, they will be wronged again and it's all regardless of the "tough" facade that are hoping to put on.

But can you blame us? Who WANTS to be wronged, defrauded and hurt? Nobody I know!

But here's where God's wisdom gives us the simple and BEST way out of the insanity of trying to be the scariest, baddest, toughest person to ever live.

We find it in Paul's first letter to the Corinthians, chapter 6:

"...Why not rather be wronged? Why not rather be defrauded?"

When I read this,  I was so stunned that I had to re-read it. Ha ha ha. So foreign to my thoughts, yet familiar to my heart, like a long lost relative. I knew it immediately to be true. Some people say "it rang true in my heart." And this did. And does.

Did you know that there are 613 commandments in the Torah, the first five books of the Bible? And yet, Jesus gave us yet one more.

In John 13:34, "A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another." 

Even if someone does something hurtful, wrong or terrible to you, we need to pray for them, and not hate them. We need to ask God to bless them in their life, as we don't know what all they have endured which has lead them to behave has they are.

Now I believe that people who have done crimes and terrible acts against others should be taken off of the streets so that they won't continue do to those things. And there is always the situation where a person needs to get physically away from someone who is harming them. 

But the reminder I am hoping to give you and me included, is that we don't have to live all tensed and braced for impact with little shifting eyes trying to see who might be coming for us! Ha ha ha! God says we can live free of that fear. If someone wrongs you, leave it to God to restore if He sees that you need it restored. If God can hold the world to together with His Word, then certainly he can restore you after you have had a loss of any kind. 

Go and live boldly. Free from the fears of being taken advantage of, hurt or wronged. And remember that nothing in your life comes to your life without the express approval of God. As Dr. Stanley once put it, "view everything as coming from God." All working to bring out a consistent and saintly spirit within us.

Philippians 1:6
And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.


God bless your socks off friend!

Huge love,

Tiffany

Sunday, December 30, 2012

I will pray for you...later

Now this is about a very terrible habit I used to have. I would tell someone, "Oh, I will pray for you" and then forget to actually DO IT. Even in my own life circumstances, I would say "I will pray about it or, we should pray about this or that" and again, forget to actually do it.

I think this makes the Devil's day. He doesn't care what we promise to do, it's what we ACTUALLY do that is either serves God or serves him.

So in the last few years, I've learned to pay attention to the gentle nudging of the Holy Spirit's prompting. I was having a conversation with my mom and once again saying my line of "we should pray about it" with no intention of praying at THAT moment. But that's exactly what I felt in my heart, as clear the morning after a rain...PRAY NOW. I was almost startled at the thought. Then I said to my mom, "why don't we pray now?" and she paused for a minute, and said "Okay, yes, let's pray now!" There is something amazing about praying in that very moment too, try it and see!

So ever since that experience a few years ago, I've disciplined my lazy self to DO what I say, right then and there, rather than waiting for the "perfect time to actually do it." We will not know, this side of heaven, how important timing and prayer truly are.

I also noticed something else about Jesus' prayer life. That He not only prayed for people in the moment He was with them, but He set aside time to talk to His Father in Heaven.

Mark 1:35 Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.

Luke 6:12 One of those days Jesus went out to a mountainside to pray, and spent the night praying to God.

Luke 5:16 But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.

We can do this too, anything that Jesus did, we can be sure that doing it too will be a benefit and blessing to us! Get alone where the distractions of the world can't compete for your interest, and pray to God. For me, at this point of life with two little ones to care for, it's in the car driving and the shower. But you find your best "alone" time and make it happen.

I encourage you to not only say you will pray when someone needs it, but to do it then and there, even with them, because of Matthew 18:22 "For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them." How cool is that? God is there with you when you pray together! I loooove that. Of course there will be times you actually cannot pray at that moment, but be sure to follow through and pray as you have promised. If I can learn to keep my word, anyone can!

And second, make time for you and God. It will become one of your most cherished times, those that you have spent in the presence of God with your mind focused on Him and able to finally hear that "still, small voice" that same one that spoke to Elijah ( 1 Kings 19:13).

God bless your socks off! Right now and far into the coming new year!

And that's your daily diamond! Huge love, Tiffany


Saturday, November 10, 2012

Top 5 Books for your Littles

Sometimes it's nice to get a few recommendations, I always like recommendations, so here are a few of my all time favorites. Book hunting can be daunting, since there are millions and billions of books. Some are terrible, some are just ok, and there are a few shining stars...the last category is what I will share...in our humble opinion of course.

We will start with our #5 and work our way down to the #1...our all time favorite! Although I reserve the title of BEST BOOK EVER for the BIBLE--hands down, the winner!

5. Good Night Moon by Margaret Wise Brown and Clement Hurd- a fun little book and helps to set the "sleepy-time" stage.






4. If you give a Mouse a Cookie by Laura Numeroff and Felicia Bond-a cute little book about a mouse that will need a lot more than just a cookie.



3. Snow Lion by David M. McPhail- a book my sister and I loved a kids, about a lion who keeps trying to take some snow back to the desert until he learns the difference of hot things and cold things. It's adorably written.



2. Jesus Loves Me by Tim Warnes- About a little bear cub and his parents who do all sorts of things while explaining that Jesus loves him all the day long and all the night long. It's so sweet and adorably illustrated!


1. Jamberry by Bruce Degen- my all time favorite children's book about a bear and a boy that do all sorts of adventures while singing, dancing and eating all sorts of berries! It's a fun book to read because it rhymes, I love rhymes! And the author is the illustrator and it's just as sweet in word as it is in picture.



I hope you enjoy these books as much as our family has and perhaps, they even become part of your personal library.

Happy Reading!!!

Huge love, from one big book worm, with glasses...

Tiffany


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